I want to discuss a topic that is one I have a great deal of experience with, both personally and professionally. I want to discuss divorce. To begin the discussion I feel it’s important to …
I want to discuss a topic that is one I have a great deal of experience with, both personally and professionally. I want to discuss divorce.
To begin the discussion I feel it’s important to share with you what I have learned about “threshold”.
You see everything has threshold, a limit, a maximum allowance… Everything. The clothes you are wearing, the furniture you use, the place you live, and you. You have thresholds. You have a maximum allowance for every single person, place and thing in your life.
What’s important to know is that once a threshold appears, once you just can’t go on as you have been or once you’ve reached the limit, you either cease to exist or learn to exist in a different way.
The shirt you are wearing… Once it reaches its threshold will be thrown away, given away or turned into something else- maybe a dusting cloth or a unique pillow covering…
When divorce happens, a threshold has been achieved and you can cease to exist or learn a new way of being. It is only an end of what was. It has no bearing on what can be. That is your choice.
When divorce is on the table there are so many things to potentially overcome- financially, emotionally and physically. There are so many things to figure out and redirect. Sometimes the weight of these things can beat us down and deplete us, but it’s important to know that you have the ability to actively participate in the restructuring of your life.
The purpose of this post is to remind you that you have the ability to let go of what once was. You have the ability to recreate your life. You have the ability to move beyond this threshold and be in a new way.
Breathe. The journey isn’t over until you cease to exist. And although you may sometimes feel like that’s the option you want, I promise with all of my being that once you pass through this threshold, life will be whatever you decide- regardless of circumstances.
This experience changes. YOUR experience changes. That’s what I mean when I say we practice everyday. We are practicing our role in the experience. Our role allows us to create a cer…
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This experience changes.
YOUR experience changes.
That’s what I mean when I say we practice everyday. We are practicing our role in the experience. Our role allows us to create a certain experience. Our role strengthens or weakens an experience, our role can shift and change an experience right in front of everyones eyes… our role can limit us or set us free. Without our role the experience changes.
So how do we do that? How do we change our experience? How can we improve a bad situation?
Learn to identify negative blocks within your thinking. Practice that.
Here’s the basics:
Our bodies physically respond to negativity. When we think of things that make us feel negative-insecure, afraid or angry for example, our body physically responds to the energy of that thing. The cool part is that you can make yourself alert to those physical warnings of stress or fear or insecurity and turn it into something really good. We can allow those moments to lead us into a better, more helpful mindset.
So, what does it FEEL like to you? Where do you feel it?
Most people seem to feel it either in their stomach, in their chest or in their head. Once you become aware of this physical response all you have to do is become aware of when it shows up and then say, “It feels so good to release that sh#t.” Then take a deep breath. Imagine it breaking off of you or melting off you…just let it go. Drop your shoulders. Give thanks for that moment.
That’s how. That what you practice. And a super cool thing happens when you begin to practice that… you can spend more time imagining and creating and enjoying the life you desire.
Make peace with your stale negative thinking. Release it- making room for what you desire.
Success is yours the moment you give yourself permission to receive.
Spring cleaning… well, hurry-up-summer’s- coming cleaning is more like it. As I found myself faced with a long list of clean up and organize and plant plus appointments plus playdate and audition a…
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Spring cleaning… well, hurry-up-summer’s- coming cleaning is more like it. As I found myself faced with a long list of clean up and organize and plant plus appointments plus playdate and audition and shopping today I began to just feel myself experience overwhelm and it felt like pressure. That pressure caused a tightness that dd not feel good.
I have practiced listening to my body. I’m aware of what feels good and what doesn’t- my body is always telling me. Now I listen.
So as I began to listen and felt my body get tight- stressed, thinking “wow, I remember having people to do all of these things for me. That was excellent” I became immediately washed with a sense of happiness. Now, not too long ago I would have responded in my head with something rooted in guilt or sadness because I no longer have people to do these things for me. If I want or need something done, I have to do it. Today however, I bypassed those negative reactions and felt so grateful to be ABLE to do all of these things.
Today I will connect with each one of the items on my list and treat them each with vigor, giving them my focus and positive energy- gratitude.
I’ve got to go get some things done now… and I’m kind of excited about it.
I have been thinking about blogging again. I’ve written many blogs but the truth is that I lost them all when I lost my website a few years ago. That sucked but it has lead me here right now and that is awesome because I have something very important to share.
I suppose this would be a good place to start over, to introduce myself and share what I have learned about life up to this point, about what I do and of course provide value. Why do I feel my voice has value? Good question. My answer is this: My journey has NOT been what I expected and certainly not what was expected of me. I have made many, many “mis”takes and took many seemingly wrong turns along the way. At 43 years old I can say with great confidence that I am finally grateful for each and every one of the steps that got me right here today.
All of these steps have taken me on a journey of discovery through success and failure, pleasure and pain. In 2007 the world as I once knew shifted, throwing me into an unknown life experience. Looking back from where I am today, I can see that my life had actually been a succession of shifts- some of them more dramatic than others, more impactful but all of them responsible for my current perspective.
As I examined these experiences I noticed that my coping skills seemed very significant. I spent most of my life with not very good coping skills. What I learned, however, is that we experience feelings like joy, success, defeat and pain based on what we know, on what we have experienced up to that point. Here’s why that matters- we behave how we feel. How we behave is directly related to the coping skill we chose.
Struggle and uncomfortableness provide an opportunity to evolve, to learn a new skill- a coping skill to get through whatever it is. The value of my voice comes from what happened after 2007. That is when I began learning and practicing. I began shifting my perspective on some of my old experiences. I learned how to reframe them in a way that allowed me to feel differently about them. As I practiced this I began feeling better and better. I practiced everywhere. I practiced everyday. I watched people. I watched myself. I listened. I learned about how we connect these unique expriences and that helps create who we are and how we are.
We are all just a collections of experiences. How we interpreted those experiences led to other experiences. We have just been building on what we have been and how we have been since our birth. Wild, right?
Find a perspective that is in alignment with what you desire. If you desire success remind yourself that you are a success. If you desire good health declare how wonderful it is to make healthy choices. Pay attention to your self talk. It will let you know how you have already programmed yourself.. if any of it doesn’t feel good try a different perspective and practice it.
You are limitless. Free yourself of the limitations you have convinced yourself to be true.