A Coping Skill.

 

Along your path,  you may have been introduced to the idea of “write it down”.  I feel like I’ve heard that suggestion made for many things- to help remember things or to organize my thoughts.

IMG_4264It was only until recently that the reality of that hit me.  It hit me as I grabbed my notebook to write down some thoughts on writing- as a coping skill.

To identify it as a coping skill would suggest that it is a skill that is used for coping.  Coping through what?  Coping through EVERYTHING.

I began the practice of writing things down about 10 years ago.  As I emerged from a very dark depression writing my thoughts and experiences down served not only as something to remember or even to help organize my thoughts about.  It became a habit that I formed.  That habit has become a coping skill.

When I began practicing the art of adjusting mindset, my mind was flooded with thoughts and ideas.  I have heard this over and over again in my office.  Adjusting Mindset  is like a release that allows all of the limitations and restrictions in your thinking tIMG_5491.JPGo readjust which leads to a wonderful flow of thought and excitement-of clarity.

So I would always have a small notebook with me and a pen handy because often I would be driving or going to sleep and my mind would produce these new thoughts and ideas… really good ones, so I’d write them down.  I never really spent too much time trying to make sense of them.  I just collected them.  And as my practice continued I realized I was writing and making notes all day.

10 years later I continue my practice and feel so grateful to be able to share what I do with every single person who has shared this experience with me or supported me in the process.

Write.  Clear your thoughts to get to your thoughts.  Adjust what’s needed to move in the direction you choose.  You are writing this story.

Much love.

#wearemanifesting
#limitless

 

 

 

 

5 Questions to ask every young person going back to school.

It is thIMG_4623at time of year again… Thankful to have made it another year but so often the excitement of back to school is overshadowed by feelings of fear, worry, and overwhelm. And Im not talking about the parents ; )

Every year it seems around the winding down of summer I begin to see an influx of clients ages 11-16 for the same reasons- back to school stress. The reasons may appear different at first but so often they all seem to be experiencing similar thoughts. These thoughts look like like- who’s in my classes (so I have a friend or two or so I can avoid perceived drama), what”s my workload look like (can I handle the expectations), and how do I balance all of the activities I want to be a part of (and still have a life).

As we get closer to the beginning of a new school year the stress builds in these kids. Knowing this is great for everyone else because now we can help ease some of that stress so that they can get the most out of the new year- so that they can grow and evolve in the most positive way possible. So what can we do? Below are some questions to ask kids during this time of year. These questions will allow them to think about the positive parts of the experience which will help create a more positive experience.

Here are just a few simple things you can ask any young person going back to school:

  1.  What are you hoping to learn (more) about in this new year?
  2.  What are you most looking forward to doing that you haven’t yet?
  3.  Is there anything you would like to try doing differently this year?
  4.  What do you think may surprise you this year?
  5.  What do you think you are going to be really really good at?

IMG_6878.jpgAsking these questions will help to stimulate positive thinking about the experience before it happens. It allows their mind to imagine achievement and success which supports confidence and self esteem. These are powerful tools for our young people. Lets empower them this year. Cheer them on. Watch them soar beyond what we could ever expect of them.

Wishing you and yours an exceptionally wonderful new school year.

#muchlove
#wearemanifesting
#limitless

 

The end of what was. We’re talking divorce.

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I want to discuss a topic that is one I have a great deal of experience with, both personally and professionally.  I want to discuss divorce.

To begin the discussion I feel it’s important to share with you what I have learned about “threshold”.

You see everything has threshold, a limit, a maximum allowance… Everything. The clothes you are wearing, the furniture you use, the place you live, and you. You have thresholds. You have a maximum allowance for every single person, place and thing in your life.

What’s important to know is that once a threshold appears, once you just can’t go on as you have been or once you’ve reached the limit, you either cease to exist or learn to exist in a different way.

The shirt you are wearing… Once it reaches its threshold will be thrown away, given away or turned into something else- maybe a dusting cloth or a unique pillow covering…

When divorce happens, a threshold has been achieved and you can cease to exist or learn a new way of being. It is only an end of what was. It has no bearing on what can be. That is your choice.IMG_4834.jpg

When divorce is on the table there are so many things to potentially overcome- financially, emotionally and physically. There are so many things to figure out and redirect.  Sometimes the weight of these things can beat us down and deplete us, but it’s important to know that you have the ability to actively participate in the restructuring of your life.

The purpose of this post is to remind you that you have the ability to let go of what once was. You have the ability to recreate your life. You have the ability to move beyond this threshold and be in a new way.

Breathe. The journey isn’t over until you cease to exist. And although you may sometimes feel like that’s the option you want, I promise with all of my being that once you pass through this threshold, life will be whatever you decide- regardless of circumstances.

#muchlove

Life Changing Practice

 

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This experience changes.

YOUR experience changes.

That’s what I mean when I say we practice everyday.  We are practicing our role in the experience.  Our role allows us to create a certain experience. Our role strengthens or weakens an experience, our role can shift and change an experience right in front of everyones eyes… our role can limit us or set us free.  Without our role the experience changes.

So how do we do that? How do we change our experience?  How can we improve a bad situation?

Learn to identify negative blocks within your thinking. Practice that.

Here’s the basics:

Our bodies physically respond to negativity.  When we think of things that make us feel negative-insecure, afraid or angry for example, our body physically responds to the energy of that thing.  The cool part is that you can make yourself alert to those physical warnings of stress or fear or insecurity and turn it into something really good.  We can allow those moments to lead us into a better, more helpful mindset.

So, what does it FEEL like to you? Where do you feel it?

Most people seem to feel it either in their stomach, in their chest or in their head. Once you become aware of this physical response all you have to do is become aware of when it shows up and then say,  “It feels so good to release that sh#t.”  Then take a deep breath.  Imagine it breaking off of you or melting off you…just let it go.  Drop your shoulders.  Give thanks for that moment.

That’s how.  That what you practice.  And a super cool thing happens when you begin to practice that… you can spend more time imagining and creating and enjoying the life you desire.

Make peace with your stale negative thinking. Release it- making room for what you desire.

Success is yours the moment you give yourself permission to receive.
#sendinglove #wearemanifesting

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