Lets talk about feelings of anger, frustration, embarrassment, shame, despair… being withdrawn. These feelings can be consuming and can prevent you from the very thing you actually desire to have or be or experience.
Has there been a time in your life that you could identify with any of these? How about the people you work with? Perhaps the people you love or have loved? How about the people you see every single day? These feelings are more common than you may think. And it has little to do with age, gender or financial situation or even personal experience.
Having guided thousands of people through these feelings, I want to tell you something VERY significant.
In my practice, both professionally and personally, I have come to understand one of the precursors of these negative feelings. No matter what the reason a client comes to see me this thing ALWAYS applies. And once you can apply a corrective practice, those feelings can better align or match what you actually want. Its a frequency thing, but we can discuss that at another time : )
I have created so many visualizations that guide my clients through these feelings in a better feeling way. One of the things that is ALWAYS true is that when someone is feeling any of those feelings, (anger, frustration, embarrassment, shame, despair… being withdrawn) is that they are not clear.
You know the difference between clear and not clear. You are clear, for example, when you get a great idea or when you are feeling thankful, or hopeful or happy. You are clear when you are behaving in a way that you desire. You are unclear when you can’t feel these things.
How do you get unclear? Our thoughts are constantly helping us FEEL a certain way. How we feel makes us behave a certain way. So the question really becomes, how are you THINKING?
Many people allow themselves to experience the day on automatic pilot, rarely stoping to check in with what those voices in their head is really saying. We rarely stop and see if it is helping or hurting us.
By the time people find their way into my office, they have usually been listening to negative things for so long that not only do they believe it but their bodies react in terribly negative ways as a result.
Those negative thoughts create “static” which makes it so difficult to feel good. We get stuck there, in that static. We get sad there. We distance ourselves from success while being there.
Getting out of static is a practice. Just like you may be practicing mean, sarcastic or abusive self talk you may now give yourself permission to practice kind, loving, supportive self talk- If only to test the theory that your thoughts are indeed helping you feel a certain kind of way.
Think about someone you love ridiculously. Would you say to them the things you say to yourself? Those mean things… would you say them to someone you love?
Practice clearing what is holding you back by repeating these 3 sentences for a week.
“I am letting go of any thoughts that no longer serve me.”
“It feels good to let go and feel more clear.”
“I am so grateful for this practice.”
Try those 3 sentences this week. Repeat them as often as you can during your day. Take a pic and make them your home screen… say them like you mean them- or pretend that you do. One week. What do you have to lose other than static that is causing negative feelings that are holding you back?