I want to discuss a topic that is one I have a great deal of experience with, both personally and professionally. I want to discuss divorce.
To begin the discussion I feel it’s important to share with you what I have learned about “threshold”.
You see everything has threshold, a limit, a maximum allowance… Everything. The clothes you are wearing, the furniture you use, the place you live, and you. You have thresholds. You have a maximum allowance for every single person, place and thing in your life.
What’s important to know is that once a threshold appears, once you just can’t go on as you have been or once you’ve reached the limit, you either cease to exist or learn to exist in a different way.
The shirt you are wearing… Once it reaches its threshold will be thrown away, given away or turned into something else- maybe a dusting cloth or a unique pillow covering…
When divorce happens, a threshold has been achieved and you can cease to exist or learn a new way of being. It is only an end of what was. It has no bearing on what can be. That is your choice.
When divorce is on the table there are so many things to potentially overcome- financially, emotionally and physically. There are so many things to figure out and redirect. Sometimes the weight of these things can beat us down and deplete us, but it’s important to know that you have the ability to actively participate in the restructuring of your life.
The purpose of this post is to remind you that you have the ability to let go of what once was. You have the ability to recreate your life. You have the ability to move beyond this threshold and be in a new way.
Breathe. The journey isn’t over until you cease to exist. And although you may sometimes feel like that’s the option you want, I promise with all of my being that once you pass through this threshold, life will be whatever you decide- regardless of circumstances.